I seriously need to stop watching shows where deliveries go wrong. I find myself sitting there, almost in tears, thinking to myself, "Oh my God, this is going to be me. Will I die? Will the baby die? How will Kendall live without me?"
I know that many of my girlfriends said that they weren't scared about the delivery, but about bringing the baby home. I've even talked to all of these girls afterwards and they all had normal deliveries. I watched my own sister-in-law have a normal delivery. But it doesn't matter. I'm still TERRIFIED. I don't know if it's the needle for the epidural, the pushing, the potential to pass foul things onto the bed WHILE pushing, but I'm terrified of the actual delivery.
Which isn't good. Because it's happening. I can't "put it back". The Nugget is in there and moving. I can't stop it now. But for some reason, I can't STOP watching these shows. It's like I'm mentally preparing myself for the worst.
It's probably bad that I still have 4 months to go and I'm already getting anxious, isn't it?
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Have you talked to some people where the deliveries didn't go as expected? That may help- actual one on one conversation with someone, not the scary tv shows. That may help. Personally I never read the labor chapters in the baby books and I didn't have anyone to talk to about it. My mom was in Alaska and we were in Mississippi with very few friends and no family. You are in a MUCH better place financially, geographically, familially (is that a word?). You're going to do great. Call me if you ever want to hear my not so swell birth stories- or better yet, I'll post them on the blog. Then scroll down and look at the pictures of my munchkins. I tell everyone that they're made of rubber and I got the extended warranties. ;p
Lisa, I'm going to be blunt...delivery SUCKS! It's the worst pain, but unlike other things in life, you get a great prize at the end. I was worried about all the stuff that goes on...but you don't see or feel the epidural, when you poop on the table you are beyond being embarrased b/c all you care about is getting the baby out, and after the babe is out the pain is over. I found that being anxious in the delivery made the pain worse, when you relax its much better.
Plus you have a bonus...I had to worry about going into labor at home or whatever, but you have a doctor in the house who could deliver you. :)
And after it's all over you can tell innocent pregnant ladies all of your horror stories. Its part of the fun.
Um, well... I would say delivery sucks, but people would criticize me for my super quick speeding bullet deliveries. I'm not going to lie. It F'n hurts like nothing you have ever felt. I will pray for a quick and speedy delivery for you though so you can proudly post your story and then peole will say "you suck" to you too.
I will say that if you believe that it will be the worst pain, things go wrong, etc... it does make it worse. Look into a book so you can have some relaxation techniques in your pocket. Having Kendall right there with you will help too. :-) But then again, I barely remember Danny being there because I was so focsed on what my body was doing.
It's perfectly normal for you to get anxious as the time gets closer. Just remember that the baby has it's own timetable and anything can happen at any time. When are you stopping at work or are you hoping to work til you pop?
Oh Lisa... you will be fine!!! Epidurals are the best thing. I've been through it both ways... with the epi and without... I would say get it! I didn't feel the needle and after having back labor for four hours. I didn't care where they shoved the needle as long as I wouldn't feel the contractions. haha! You are going to do wonderful in there! Once you see your lil' joy come out nothing else will matter. :)Hey, they ALSO give you food after too. It's a great reward all over!
During one of our classes, a nurse said to think about pain as a good thing. Pain usually signals something is wrong, but with labor, pain is a GOOD thing. It means your baby is going to be born. I mulled over this for weeks and it really helped me lessen my fears and focus. Also, I refused to read scary stuff b/c it made me very panicky. And yeah, labor hurts. It's supposed to. But it's bearable because of the fantastic outcome!!! You forget those pains really fast once you are holding that beautiful baby.
I'd say stop watching those shows. It will just get you more worked up that bad stuff will happen. I have never had a baby (no advice here), but so many women do with no problems, I think you have the odds in your favor. :)
those shows are crack to pregnant people. there's no point in even admitting you have a problem. you're already addicted.
i had the epi and i still had a "hot spot" where i felt the full force of every contraction. HOLY SHIT. there was absolutly no way i was going to "catch some sleep before the big event" like all the psycho nurses suggested.
people are right though - when it's all over you forget practically immediately.
i'll be honest again - when i saw nicole i wasn't all brimming with love and adoration. I was thinking - crap, i better not kill this thing. how do i do that?!
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